Feeling Emotions and Impulse Completion

Did you know that it is totally ok to feel all your feelings? Sadness tells people that we are hurting and invites our loved ones closer to tend to us. Fear is there to alert us of the potential dangers that lurk. No need to explain joy, I know you like that one. Although, for […]

The Partner of a Porn Addict (And Some Exciting News)

How can a spouse best support her addicted husband?  While some couples or individuals watch porn and have no issues with it, there can be some major issues when pornography turns into an addiction.  In the Christian community I belong to, we see it as a big no-no and are aware that it is an […]

How Often Should You Go To Therapy?

There are many different frequencies that people come in for counseling. I have my regular 50 minute once a week clients, my double session (100 minute) once a week clients, my every other week 50 minute clients, my every other week double clients, and my as-needed-just-maintaining clients. Obviously there are several factors to consider when […]

The Big Leap

I recently devoured a book called The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. It made me think A LOT and grow in the days after reading it so I want to share with you what I learned. The premise of the book is that we all have an Upper Limit Problem where we cap ourselves in […]

On Risk-Taking

I have been taking some risks this week. I’m someone who likes to take risks because I can see that without risk-taking it is hard to grow. As an avid risk-taker, I’ve noticed that the more risks I take, the bigger risks I feel like I can take. Are you afraid to take a risk? […]


Often, we think that how we react to things is just our personality, and it isn’t. I’ll say it again. Who you think you are in how you act and respond to things, how withdrawn or outgoing you are, how volatile or passive you become in arguments, this is not set in stone. These are […]

False Self vs. True Self

False selves and true selves are two very different selves we have. A false self is the image we portray to the world. Be it by social media or in person, it is not the real us. It’s the us we wish we were or the us that we wish that others would think that […]

How to Feel

Do you slip into numbness? Do you dissociate with food or tv or internet or work? There are things you can do to reactive feeling as a part of your life. Feeling is important because it is part of what helps us conceptualize our lives and navigate relationships. We want our feeling and our thinking […]