John Chapters 1 & 2

Before you read this, read John chapters 1 & 2.  Then read the following.  Afterwards, sit quietly with Jesus and talk to Him about the areas you are ready to allow Him into.   I was reading John chapters 1 and 2 just now and three things were revealed to me while reading. One is […]

What’s your Attachment Style?

What kind of attachment style do you have? Aren’t you curious? It’s important to know this so that you can work on it and have more inner peace, emotional awareness and regulation, and healthier relationships.  There are four main styles. The first is secure. I’ve heard that the majority of people out there are securely […]

The Lady at the Well

I’ve been thinking about the lady at the well from John 4. I don’t know why, but she is one of my favorite characters in the Bible. Ok, I totally know why, if I’m honest. It’s because I lived a hidden life filled with shame and now I get to proclaim His message shame-free, just […]

The Only Way Out is In

I had an amazing supervisor once, Mim Collins, who told me people avoid what they need to deal with because they are afraid that if they enter into it, they will have to relive the whole experience, but the truth is, they’ve already lived through the worst of it; it will only feel as if […]

The Habit of Introspection

I am a big proponent of having an introspective life. This means sitting for at least a few minutes a day to stop and think about how your life is going in the present. Do you have habits that are causing you some symptoms? You know, like too much tv, chocolate or social media? Did […]

If it Feels Bigger than it “Should”

Even though I’m a therapist who has done a lot of inner work, I still get triggered and I still get afraid. When I am triggered by something and I feel more than I “should”, I’ve learned to get really curious. Well, that doesn’t happen right away.  Usually I freak out and believe the amount […]

It’s Not About the Rupture

I want to talk about ruptures and repairs. Being a human means that we all have expectations and disappointments about unmet expectations. When we feel disappointed we can either stuff it, get angry and vent about it or we can share about it with the person who disappointed us in a non-attacking way. How do […]

What is EMDR?

In this video, I share about what EMDR is and give a basic run down of the treatment protocol you can expect if receiving EMDR treatment for trauma or addiction.  There are other variations on this protocol, but this is a good overview of the treatment.  Check it out if  you are curious about EMDR.  […]