The Nervous System

We all have a nervous system. Throughout the day our nervous systems get stressed and anxious and feel down and depleted. Our job is to keep our nervous system’s ups and downs within a zone that we can tolerate. If we don’t we’re gonna freak out or hit a depressive/shut down state. Self awareness is […]

On Taking Things Personally

I used to take every thing personal.  If a girl at school called me ugly then I believed her and thought that I was ugly.  If someone told me my skin was pale then I’d make sure to do something about it.  I would also take positive things personal.  I felt myself get high off […]

Inner Child and Older Self

Inner child work is when we take a look at ourselves from a very young age.  We see what we are wearing and what we look like.  We ask the little version of ourselves what they might want or need.  I recently did some inner child work with a client and she told her little […]

Self Care Guilt

What is this thing that happens to me when I do something nice for myself?  This immediate pang of guilt.  Where on earth does this come from?  Why does it happen every time?  Either in a feeling of remorse for doing something nice for myself, or a feeling of guilt because I have spent an […]

The Importance of Rest

Working from your rest.  What on earth does that mean?  It means first rest enough to the point that you actually feel rested in your body, spirit and mind, and then work from that place of rest.  It’s backwards to what society tells us.  It says just drink a Redbull, get an extra shot of […]

Finding Healing (Underneath a Cookie Monster Colored Fuzzy Blue Blanket)

I have to do a genogram for my career counseling class and I included my immediate family, Chris and my grandparents and aunts on both sides.  My teacher docked me off five points for not including my cousins and uncles.  Through therapy with Wendi today I realized that it is too painful to include them.  […]

Be Like a Five Year Old

I realized last night that I really care about people. Not in a I-have-to-because-they’re-my-family kind of way but in a people matter, like really matter, way. I realized this week how fragile life can be. Our family friend was diagnosed less than a month ago with stage four pancreatic cancer and it is terminal. Sitting […]

Let Love in Completely

Focusing on the good, on my strengths, and on the people who are ultra loving and important in my life has made a world of difference.  I just started seeing an EMDR therapist named Wendi.  She helped me first by making a list of people who are supportive of me.  I then took the step […]

Letting Go of Old Ideas

I was at an AA meeting yesterday and the topic was “Letting Go of Old Ideas”.  I had a lot to say about this.  The first thing that came to my mind was Fear of Authority.  Every time someone tells me, “Hey, can I talk to you for a second,” and they bring me into […]